Weddings

A wedding is the Christian celebration of a couple’s love and commitment to each other and God.

This sacred ceremony, in which you enter into a covenant with God and one another, creates the foundation for your marriage. By choosing to be married by a representative of God’s Church, you are inviting God’s presence in your wedding and purposely asking for God’s blessing upon the marriage.

Resurrection, A United Methodist Church, is honored to offer the Wedding Ministry for the very special occasion of holy marriage. Weddings are available for both our members and non-members of the congregation. The wedding ceremony is a worship service where the couple pledges themselves to one another in the presence of God and begins their marriage with Christ as the foundation. The following policies and procedures have been established to help your wedding go as smoothly as possible.

A Marriage at Resurrection

Your wedding will bring family and friends together to celebrate your marriage through worship. We encourage you to include responsive readings, prayers, and congregational singing in your ceremony. In order to prepare for this special occasion please note the requirements for marriage at Resurrection.

Important Requirements
  • Worship attendance is required of non-members to create an understanding of our denomination and our church.
  • Presentation of a properly executed marriage license at the rehearsal is required as the wedding cannot take place without the marriage license. If you are marrying in Kansas, the license must be issued in Kansas. Likewise, if your venue is in Missouri, the license must be issued in Missouri. The pastor can only perform weddings in full accordance with the law. Please do not overlook the necessity for careful compliance.
  • Completion of the Premarital and Newlywed Class Prepare & Enrich is required before the wedding day, and meeting(s) with the assigned pastor before the ceremony.
  • A waiting period of at least six months following a divorce or death of a spouse shall be observed to allow for healing following the end of a previous marriage.
  • Weddings are performed on Fridays or Saturdays based on the location, availability, and holiday calendar.

Wedding Planning

Your big day is here! Follow these steps to start the planning process. A contract is sent once the final email from the Wedding Director is sent with the approval and the contract and Premarital Counseling is completed.

  1. Fill out the Wedding Interest Form. A date must be included to proceed. 
  2. When the Wedding Director tentatively confirms your date is available, the contract will need to be turned in to hold the date. The date is not considered held until the final email confirmation has been sent reflecting the reservation. Turning in the contract does not mean the date is held but it is an important step in the process. Wedding dates can be reserved up to 18 months in advance based on location availability. Complete & send Wedding Contract.
  3. Resurrection requires the Prepare & Enrich course, a premarital preparation class, before being married by a Resurrection pastor. This faith-based course helps build the couples’ foundation before the vows. Register for Prepare & Enrich here.
  4. The wedding information page will help guide the Resurrection Wedding Coordinator with the final details for the wedding ceremony. This will need to be filled out 3 months prior to the wedding. Complete the Wedding Info Form here. 
    • Note: you must answer YES on the first question.

Wedding Fees

When budgeting for your wedding, part of the reservation process to secure one of the church locations for your rehearsal and wedding day include fees. To reserve your date a $100 non-refundable scheduling fee is required at the time the wedding is scheduled with the Wedding Director. All fees are due the Friday before the wedding day. Please make all payments in the form of a check payable to The Church of the Resurrection.

The fees cover the cost of the Rehearsal and Wedding Day events including the Premarital counseling course (Prepare & Enrich), the service of the Pastor, the Resurrection Wedding Coordinator, Facilities usage and cleaning, and technology. Any additional items are not the responsibility of the church.

  • Scheduling Fee due at time of booking: $100.00
  • All Resurrection locations: $2000.00 plus the scheduling fee
  • Leawood’s Memorial Garden would also be $2000.00 plus the scheduling fee.
  • Exception at Leawood Only: Firestone Chapel $500.00 plus the scheduling fee. This does not include a rehearsal. If a rehearsal is needed, the fee is $800.00.
  • Marriage Blessing only available in Firestone Chapel: $300.00
  • Off-Site Locations within a 30 mile radius: $500.00 plus the scheduling fee
  • Prepare & Enrich Class Online ONLY with no wedding planned: $125.00/couple

Resurrection Wedding Venues

Resurrection has six locations where weddings can be held: Blue Springs, Brookside, Downtown, Leawood, Overland Park, and West. While weddings can be held at each location, detailed information is provided for Leawood, Downtown, and Brookside. If you are interested in Overland Park, West, or Blue Springs please contact weddings@cor.org for further details.

Each location is unique in its own way as a wedding venue. The following information below can help you with this decision. Resurrection locations do not offer a space for wedding receptions.

The Resurrection Brookside location opened on December 18, 2022. This location is busy getting all its procedures in place to be able to host a wonderful wedding ceremony. They will be accepting wedding reservations starting April 1, 2023. Tours are available now! Please email weddings@cor.org or fill out an interest form on the home page to proceed with a tour.

Ministry & The Pastor

The pastor(s) at Resurrection officiate at weddings at his or her campus venue. Guest clergy may assist with the approval of the Officiating Pastor or his/her designee. A pastor will be assigned depending on the date of the wedding. A particular pastor may be requested but is not guaranteed due to scheduling and other commitments. 

The pastors will spend one or more sessions in conference with a couple planning to be married. It is their responsibility as a pastor to function in this capacity as a counselor. This will include discussions of both the service and the marriage itself. After the pastor is scheduled for the wedding, the couple is responsible to contact the pastor’s administrative assistant to schedule these session(s). At the discretion of the pastor, additional outside counseling may[CC1]  be required. Communion is not offered at a Resurrection wedding, but the couple may share the marriage cup. These ceremony details will be discussed at the meetings with the pastor.

Premarital & Newlywed Class

We want you and your partner to “live happily ever after!” Our Premarital and Newlywed Class is designed to help couples take the next steps of their journey on the right path. Trained instructors lead each session, covering topics to strengthen your connection with your partner and help you gain important lifelong skills. Topics include communication, conflict and resolution, financial management, and experiencing God, among others. 

Resurrection requires the Prepare & Enrich course as the premarital preparation class before being married by a Resurrection pastor. The Premarital and Newlywed course is open to all dating couples and is a requirement for any couple desiring to be married by a Resurrection pastor. There are several opportunities to complete this course throughout the year. 

The course is also available to those who haven’t set a wedding date. This course, like all of Resurrection’s ministries, is open and welcoming of all couples, regardless of sexual orientation. Although denominational policy currently restricts our ability to host and officiate same-gender marriages, there are other ways we can support your special day. Please email weddings@cor.org for additional information. 

Next Prepare & Enrich sessions available for sign-up:

  • March 25, 2023, in person at Resurrection Leawood 8:30 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
  • June 3, 2023, in person at Resurrection Leawood 8:30 a.m. – 4:00 p.m.
  • Zoom: August 29, September 5, 12, 19 6:30 p.m. – 8:30 p.m. Must attend all sessions

The Walk Down the Aisle

Your big day is almost here, and all your details and planning are coming together. To be sure you have everything exactly how you want it and following along with the church requirements, the following details will help you plan for your wedding weekend.

Each on-site wedding will have a Resurrection Wedding Coordinator. This coordinator represents the church in managing the many details of the wedding and rehearsal within the church building. Their responsibilities include ensuring the wedding venue is ready for the rehearsal and wedding, unlocking rooms for the wedding party, coordinating audio set-up with technology, arranging guest book podium and gift table, assisting the pastor with the rehearsal, orchestrating processional and recessional, monitoring time schedules related to the ceremony, setting guidelines for the photographer, ensuring the church is cleaned after the wedding, and overseeing any other facilitation needs within the church. A coordinator will be assigned to the contracted wedding approximately three months before the wedding date. All inquiries after this point can be made directly to the assigned coordinator. Outside wedding coordinators are welcome to participate and help with your personal needs. The Resurrection Wedding Coordinator will still manage all the church-related rehearsal and wedding day items.

The wedding is a service of worship. All music played or sung during the wedding should express a Christian message appropriate to the occasion. The couple is responsible for setting up their wedding music. Please contact musicians as soon as possible to plan for your wedding.

To have your wedding run smoothly, the wedding party must arrive at the times indicated by the wedding coordinator. It is the responsibility of the couple to arrange for the care of the property of the wedding party before, during, and after the wedding, as well as the removal of their items immediately following the service. The church will not be responsible for any articles belonging to any person in the bridal party, a guest at the wedding, or a vendor serving the wedding. Wagons or other transportation are not permitted down the aisle. Please remind all the wedding parties, friends, and family that smoking is not permitted inside the church and that no alcoholic beverages are permitted in the church or on the church grounds. If alcohol is present on the premises, the officiating pastor reserves the authority to cancel the service.

Resurrection encourages the couple to employ a professional photographer for the wedding. To keep the reverence of the occasion there are a few requirements for the photographer/videographer. Please share this with the professional if you decide to utilize one of these.

  • The photographer can arrive at the times listed by the Resurrection Wedding Coordinator
  • No flash photos are permitted following the processional but may be taken during the couple’s recessional.
  • The photographer will need to remain at the rear of the sanctuary.
  • The church does not offer a professional video of the wedding. The couple is responsible for providing personnel for this service. While weddings are recorded at some venues, this is NOT a professional video. Since it’s a wide shot from the very back of the church, the detail is hard to see. Therefore, if you want a video of your wedding, we strongly recommend the couple hire a professional videographer. The wedding coordinator will provide the appropriate details on camera placement. Livestream is available for an extra cost of $100.

Flowers

Flowers are the responsibility of the bride. Nothing can be placed on the altar. Decorations of any kind may not be attached to the pews/chairs, or any other furniture by gluing, nailing, pinning, or taping. The bride and florist should consult with the Resurrection Wedding Coordinator about the way decorations may be placed on the ends of the pews/chairs. All decorations, flowers, candles, etc. must be removed from the building immediately following the service. No decorations belonging to the church may be moved. The wedding coordinator will provide times for the florist to arrive for set up.

Candles

The venues vary in the use of candles. The church will provide white candles for the worship candles. The church will also provide candle-lighting torches. If the couple chooses to rent candelabras, the candles must be placed inside a hurricane glass. Aisle candles are permitted in hurricane lamps only. If the bride and groom desire a unity candle, it will be their responsibility to provide the pillar candle. The church will provide three crystal candlesticks and two side tapers. The lighting will be officiated by the pastor. 

Bubbles

Because of city ordinances and other restrictions, confetti, rice, and birdseed are not to be distributed and/or thrown inside or outside of the church. Only bubbles outside the church may be used for this tradition. Bubbles cannot be used in the Memorial Garden.